30 Nov

Forgive my short hiatus dear readers. I took a short holiday in Europe and have returned bearing stories and a near-toxic liver.

It is well known that my luck is not always the good kind that people wish would rub off on them. I have grown accustomed to it and have come to accept the fact that I am a magnet for weirdness and ironic situations.

About one month ago, I met a guy and after a lengthy talk he asked me out on a date. He was near perfect on paper, older, very tall, smart, good looking, worldly, talked a lot…(I say near perfect because …drumroll…he’s a lawyer and also despite his good looks I was not attracted to him AT ALL- obviously).

The Lawyer took me on a very nice date upon which I discovered something interesting.

Apparently, he would also be going on holiday in Europe at the same time that I would be there, on the same flight that I would be on and in the same hotel as I would be staying at.


No people…this is just my luck in life. Not a flinch of shock or surprise from me.

Anyway, I started getting very uncomfortable because I did not want things to progress before this trip. Holidays are meant for meeting tons of new people and partying it up in a new city. I didn’t want to feel obligated to be with this guy the whole time, so I became extremely “busy” for the 2 weeks leading up to the trip in order to avoid having to go out with him again.

I felt kind of bad about it because he is a really nice person, but I just didn’t want that kind of pressure on me when I’m on vacation. I reserve the right to party irresponsibly!

We hung out on the trip a bit and did some tours, drinking and dancing. I tried to avoid letting him buy me drinks because, again, I really did not want to feel obligated to spend time with him.

There’s nothing like 5 days with someone to really make you realize how much you don’t want to be with them ever. Constant interactions with a person can make you either love them or want to off yourself.

Fun fact about me : Once I pick up on a persons mannerisms, its ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT WHEN I AM WITH THEM! I actually wait for the quirk or mannerism to manifest and then internally go “THERE it is!”

Seriously, I feel really mean saying this but MAN he’s annoying! Always loud and talk talk talking with in-your-face hand gestures and comments. I literally never knew a man could talk so much! It was insane! He would corner me and physically talk my ear off, actually off of my skull.

At one point I texted The Shoe Whore from across the room saying “Please help. I have a headache already from this guy.”

Later she gave me a whole lecture about how I don’t know how to excuse myself from situations. And she is 100% right, but I feel bad about it! What am I going to do? He’s in the middle of talking!! I can’t just up and leave because then he’s going to ask me where I’m going and guess what peoples…I am a terrible liar.

As much as I would love to tell him how he was giving me a migrane, I didn’t want to be mean.

Thats another problem of mine, I can’t be mean to nice people. You would think that this would be a good thing, but it gets me into trouble all the time because guys think that they have a chance when in reality I want to run as far away from them as humanly possible.

To sum:

Predictably, this guy wants to go out again. After this trip I am 100% sure I would kill myself, or be forced to use earplugs, if I were to accept another date. I simply refuse to subject my oversized brain to such torment. I keep getting texts from him with not-at-all-subtle hints at getting together for another date.

Now how do I get out of it without being mean?

How do you reject someone who is really nice?

Also, why am I never into the guys who are seemingly perfect for me? What is that about?

15 Responses to “Obligations”

  1. The Shoe whore November 30, 2011 at 10:18 am #

    Miss checkpls our next bitch session: “how to excuse yourself from a guy”

  2. riatarded November 30, 2011 at 10:29 am #

    Just say no to him. There is no other solution to this problem. There was a guy who used to like me in college and he won’t leave my hostel room! It was suffocating, so i know where you are coming from.

    • umcheckplease December 1, 2011 at 9:08 am #

      It’s hard for me to reject nice people! Especially if they’re tall 😉

  3. thoughtsappear November 30, 2011 at 11:36 am #

    I’m really bad at excusing myself as well. I usually down my drink or say I need to use the bathroom.

    • umcheckplease December 1, 2011 at 9:05 am #

      The worst is when I use that excuse and run into them shortly after and then have to come up with a new excuse. The Shoe Whore is amazing at this! She literally just gets up and walks away- no explanation necessary.

  4. MyTwoCents December 1, 2011 at 1:08 am #

    The same flight and hotel! Are you KIDDING?
    I feel like all of us are able to find some dealbreaker trait in even the most eligible men! Ironically enough though, we do (or have at some point) put up with much worse from much less deserving. What gives!?!

    • umcheckplease December 1, 2011 at 9:04 am #

      Wow amazing point! I agree!!! I think there has to be some kind of underlying attraction to the person that makes their flaws easier to ignore.

      Ironically, it happens with guys who aren’t so healthy/good to be with. I think it has to do with a girls desire to have a “bad boy” change for them. We make excuses for them because of that.

      See my post entitled “Analogies” (https://umcheckplease.wordpress.com/2011/09/27/analogies/) for more on this subject.

  5. leashieloo December 1, 2011 at 8:20 am #

    I am cracking up. How insane that you guys would be going at the same time and flying and staying out concurrently. This is like a rom-com! Minus the rom!

    • umcheckplease December 1, 2011 at 8:54 am #

      Oh did I forget to mention that he and his brother had a room DIRECTLY across from me and the shoe whore? Because he did… 100% com!!!! I can’t make this sh*t up !!

  6. eNAMuel December 1, 2011 at 1:33 pm #

    Same hotel (with room right across the hall) same flight…. that’s is too coincidental if you ask me
    Miss Check Pleaseeee your luck rubbed off on someone

  7. BROOKEandMCKENZIE December 2, 2011 at 11:50 am #

    You sound like me, I read this whole post feeling like I wrote it.
    I have a problem being mean to people or excusing myself but the best thing to do is just say you have to use the washroom or make a phone call! It works…and then just don’t return.

    As for the picking up on the mannerisms, Brooke and I do the same thing. It’s so funny, we have a whole post on “Quirks that Never Fade” and we definitely talk about gestures or habits people had that drove us crrrrazyyyy!! http://brookeandmckenzie.wordpress.com/2011/09/26/quirks-that-never-fade/

    By the way, in my profession I encounter many lawyers and just last night one kept following me and talking my ear off! Why do they do that!!!

    • umcheckplease December 5, 2011 at 8:13 pm #

      Ahh… always nice when someone knows exactly where I am coming from!

  8. eyekanspel December 6, 2011 at 6:29 pm #

    Too many coincidences. Watch your back, because you probably have a private investigator following you.

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